Try This, Instead of That

Words are spells.

As you work on strengthening your relationship with self-worthiness, you will come to have a deeper connection with your inner and outer dialogue, and perhaps more importantly, the power that your words have.

In my journey of growing more intimately with my worthiness, I quickly became aware of how frequently I was apologizing - in the grocery store aisle, for “delayed” text responses, for now wanting to meet up with friends. And as I took a closer look I realized that a good portion of this was rooted in my narrative around self-worth (there’s a much larger conversation here around social, gender, and cultural conditioning too, but we’ll save that for another time.)

One of the messages that has been ringing so loudly is that we do not need to apologize for taking up space.

In fact, you and I are worthy of taking up as much space in this world as our hearts desire.

So I’d invite you today to take a quick self-inventory of your relationship with apologies and ask yourself “Am I an over-apologizer?” Another way to ask would be “Am I apologizing frequently and/or unnecessarily?” Examples might be apologizing for your boundaries, for saying “no” (which, by the way, is a complete sentence), for trusting your intuition and taking inspired action on it despite it may be not being what others expect of you, for just being YOU.

I would imagine that the heart-answer for many (I’m especially looking at you recovering people pleasers) may be “yes”. So how do you shift away and break this pattern of language?

Well, like with most things in life, starting small is a great place to start. I’d encourage you to use the tips below to help kick-start you on your journey to observe your words and how they have been impacting your relationship with your self-worth.

By pivoting away from over-apologizing you are giving yourself permission to exist, to be, to take up space.

To take up as much damn space as you want.